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Being scared to ask for help

One of the problems with mental health illness is that not all people can identify that they suffer from them and many more do not dare ask for help for fear of what they will say and of social stigma.

Others also do not have the necessary information to recognize what is happening to them: since mental illness is not discussed so openly, the information is not always at hand.

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how to ask for help medical workers with colorul scrubs doing the elbow bump handshake at work during corona virus

To break this vicious circle in which the subject is not discussed out of fear, then the problem is not recognized and help is not asked, with which the disease increases and people feel worse.

We need to remove the fear of talking about illness and mental health.

If a person feels that they are not emotionally well, that they have had exaggerated reactions at different times, if they notice that their behavior has changed, if they feel nervous, fearful, difficult to sleep, anxious about the future, more sensitive and irritable then it is usually good to consult with a psychologist or psychiatrist about your situation to see how they can help you. This does not mean that he will have a problem with his personality or with her way of being, nor will it mean that he is bad in the head, he is only going through a particular moment in which external support can be of great help.

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men support family fatherhood brotherhood father in law asking for help

The best thing that can happen to you is that you find someone to whom you can explain your emotions and your fears, and open listening that will surely make you feel better, and perhaps you will also receive some advice to improve certain lifestyle habits that will help you get through the moment.

1) Say what you want

Express what you want clearly, without thinking about it, with affection and respect: «I would appreciate it if you can help me with my work», «it would make me very happy if you call me», «I want a hug»,

2) Say it with confidence

Realize how important someone else’s help is to you. Connect with the emotion of your desire, and with that conviction, and prior gratitude, express it with confidence and respect. Believe in yourself and that you deserve it. And say it in the same way, also with gratitude, respect and love, for yourself and for the other person.

3) Trust

Trust that the other person will be honest and sincere. Do not judge them, and accept her right and decision, to say yes, and also to say no.

4) Be generous

Be generous, whether it’s taking a “yes,” a “no,” or a “maybe” for an answer. Be grateful for their response, whatever it is, and congratulate yourself on the step of asking for help that you just gave. Keep practicing beyond other people, and become a master in the art of asking your trusted people for help.

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scared ask help psychotherapist psychiatrist therapy psychologist counseling session mental health psychotherapy help

There are tons of professional and serious options for finding help, the most important thing is to find someone with experience, who is trained in therapy and has studies to support their knowledge.

Taking away the fear of talking about mental health is opening the door to emotional well-being and a deep encounter with oneself that will surely help us to live better.

By Valerie T.

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